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Amazon.com
Release Date: March 3, 2009
Scribner will publish "Happens Every Day," a memoir by Gillies about how she left New York to follow her first husband to a small Midwestern college town, only to see her "perfect" marriage suddenly crumble before her eyes.

I am for sure buying this book, not only do I like her work (other then Kathy, I've seen some of her movies which I've enjoyed), but also I am willing to bet that she'll be talking about SVU!

I'll forward this to some of my buddies, thanks a bunch, Mad!

Thanks Mad...

Thanks for the info, sounds good.

Hmm. I'll be sure to check it out.

I'll have to see if my local library will be carrying this later this year.

I preordered my book already at Barnes & Noble

I asked about the CD because I've seen it mentioned but the girl looked at me as if I was from another planet and said that it could be released later.

This Week in Magazines: Inauguration, Infidelity, and Vogue
January 25, 2009
The Huffington Post

Infidelity, like the emerging Obama stimulus package, impacts many. One only hopes the stimulus will be far better understood than marital infidelity, if the American Journal of Family Therapy is to be believed.

Then, too, we might all wish that infidelity would occasionally wind up as well as it has for actress-writer Isabel Gillies, as she recounts in "An Affair to Remember" in the February Vogue (this hereby marks the first time Vogue, the American Journal of Family Therapy and "Law and Order: Special Victims Unit" are deservedly mentioned in the same sentence).

"Helping Couples Work Together Toward the Forgiveness of Marital Infidelity: Therapists' Perspectives" is the handiwork of three Florida State University academics whose somewhat clunkily-expressed aim was "to explore how therapists treat infidelity and work toward forgiveness with couples presenting with extramarital involvement."

Somewhat surprisingly, it turns out that there is far, far less research on this subject than one would assume, especially in a culture so obsessed with finding easy recipes for contentment.

Spencer Olmstead, Ryan Blick and Lilbourne Mills III interviewed ten marital and family therapists and, it's apparent, brought distinctly academic methodologies to bear. "Major categories, themes, and subthemes were generated from open, axial, and selective coding analyses. Participating therapists described treating marital infidelity and incorporating forgiveness sequentially."

"Infidelity treatment included assessing family of origin and relationship history, and discussing mutual acceptance of responsibility. When working toward forgiveness, therapists described: (a) assessing client understanding, ( psychoeducation, © clarification, (d) client languaging, and (e) time. Implications for research and treatment are discussed."

Well, I'll save you a somewhat challenging effort and inform that there are no satisfying conclusions.

"Infidelity is a couples problem that has far reaching and often damaging effects. As such, it is one that therapists find difficult to treat in therapy. Although research on the topic of infidelity and working toward forgiveness is limited, this study helps provide a thicker description of the process and interventions some therapists use while helping Forgiveness of Marital Infidelity couples work through the wake of infidelity and move towards a place of forgiveness."

So, in case you didn't assume same, be apprised that you best say you're sorry a whole lot of times if you screw around and get caught. And, even then, you might not be as lucky as actress-author Gillies, who plays macho Detective Stabler's wife on "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit."

In February Vogue, she crafts a poignant account of how her philosophy professor husband betrayed her and their two sons while he taught at a small Midwest college. She'd thought she had a blissful situation, leaving New York City for Cambridge, Mass., then Ohio. She worked on an organic farm, got a teaching job herself, shopped at the farmers' market, went to concerts at the conservatory, showed up at anti-Iraq War protests at the college, and used one of the great perks of academic life, long vacations, to summer in Maine with her spouse and young boys.

But "just at the moment when life seemed too good to be true," her husband "stopped it dead in its tracks" by falling in love with a colleague. For a bit, she thinks that it's a momentary crisis. "We had endured rough spots, but doesn't everyone?" They'd had a hectic few years, with multiples moves and two kids. "We were feeling the burn, but we were a team. We were married and we were making it work."

Not really. He was serious and had found someone, she now realizes, better suited to him. With anger and frustration, she packed up the kids and returned to live with her parents in New York. She was 35 years old and a single mom. But, then, she stumbled into meeting another guy and fell in love, partaking in an old-fashioned courtship. Things have turned out well both for her and for the ex, who comes off as about as sensitive a cheating spouse as one could find. The ex said that he and his new wife raised a glass to Gillies the night of the second wedding. "I believed him because we are still a family, just in a different shape."

did we ever have an Isabel Gillies thread? i thought we did. hmmm
if so, this should be in that thread, it just makes sense that it would. i know a certain someone posted a happy bday Mariska and THAT got taken down because we ALREADY had a MH thread. so this is just the same....hmmmm
anyWHO...

Just so you know, it wasn't taken down...it was merged with an already existing thread that was already giving her birthday wishes...

I believe that this is the only Isabel Gilles thread...Mad started this one and searched to bring it back to the top...no double thread ...the only other thread about Kathy was the one that the Admin deleted b/c it was about who hated Kathy and wanting her to die...

Well I could've posted this in the EK thread but then the posters who don't go in there wouldn't have known any news about this book or anything like that so that's why there's this thread. I made this thread before I made the News thread but I use this to cover the news on her and her book that's coming out on March 24th. I don't want to waste any threads either.

oh ok thanks!

Thanks for the info...We did have an Isabel Gillies thread some time ago and no it wasn't an 'I hate her' thread. There are 4 Isabel threads...Including this one...

http://forums.usanetwork.com/index.php?sho...=Isabel+Gillies

http://forums.usanetwork.com/index.php?sho...=Isabel+Gillies

http://forums.usanetwork.com/index.php?sho...=Isabel+Gillies

But I bet if we added up all of the Mariska/Olivia threads the list would be a hell of a lot longer. LOL! So it doesn't really matter. But if you are an Isabel fan you should check them out.

Thanks for the threads...two of those haven't been responded to since '07 and one in August of '08...if anyone wants me to combine and make one thread, I will...or we can keep this one as the official "Kathy/Isabel" thread....

I don't really care- I just care that I have a place to post any news. You can combine it to the News thread even.

I don't want to post IG news in the EK thread because I know that there's members who don't bother to go in there so they wouldn't know what was going on. I'm sure there would be a few EO shippers that are curious to browse the book for (if any) insider gossip and wondering what IG thinks about the EO ship, since she does portray, dare I say it, the "other" woman in Elliot's life.

I think it only fair that Isabel fans have a place to go to in order to post pictures, news, etc. just like Mariska and Chris fans have. If there is one thread with all of the news then the thread won't get lost in the mix right? Even Irisheyes said that some of these threads I posted hadn't even been written in for a few years.

Book cover from Barnes & Noble

Well, if we turn this into an Isabelle Gillies thread, someone (sorry, I forget who) over on tv.com mentioned that the episode "Bad Girl" from the mothership (before SVU began, Isabelle was apparently on an episode of the original as a guest actor) is airing Fri Jan 30th on TNT at 2 pm. Just an FYI in case anyone's interested...I almost never watch the mothership, but I think I might check it out.

Here's the Vogue article
http://enchantingisabelgillies.tripod.com/vogue.html

Pictures and article all typed up and posted. Thought it would be easier just to link it and make you visit my site (hey, I'm a saleswoman here, gotta promote one of my three babies).

Ara, I wrote about Bad Girl on the site so if you miss it you can always get a full recap.

Thanks for sharing SVULovesMe. I'll definitely have to check the book out...it hit a little close to home for me. I have a lot of respect for Isabelle, and I did not realize that she was going through all of this and left NYC while she was on the show. I guess you learn something new every day. And if I miss Bad Girl, I will definitely be checking that out.

I think I should go out and get a vogue copy of my own.

Like Ara here, I can hardly wait for that book to come out. The "other" girl is lucky. She already has an advanced copy of that book. Again, thanks for the heads up!

It certainly explains that between seasons 3-6, and 7 (since she didn't appear at all during that time) that she only made one appearance each season. Now, since season 8, Isabel has been appearing more with a handful of episodes that a recurring role would have on average.

All right, I may have to check that out now. I hadn't even made it home to set my DVR when I got called to the hospital for a really long run.

Wish I lived in NYC
http://thingstodo.msn.com/manhattan-ny/eve...ppens-every-day

`L&O' star's memoir to be featured at Starbucks
February 24, 2009 Associate Press
NEW YORK (AP) — A memoir by Isabel Gillies, who plays Kathy Stabler on NBC's "Law & Order: Special Victims Unit," will be the next book featured at Starbucks stores around the country.
Gillies' "Happens Every Day," which tells of the collapse of her marriage to DeSales Harrison, will be published March 24 by Scribner, an imprint of Simon & Schuster Inc.
In a statement released Tuesday by Starbucks, Gillies calls her book a story of "loving your life even when it's falling apart." Gillies, 39, is now married to Wall Street Journal reporter Peter Lattman.
Previous Starbucks picks include Helene Cooper's "The House at Sugar Beach" and Mitch Albom's "For One More Day."
NBC is owned by General Electric Co.

http://www.publishersweekly.com/article/CA6639489.html
Starbucks Picks Gillies' 'Happens Every Day'
By Rachel Deahl -- Publishers Weekly, 2/24/2009 8:11:00 AM
Continuing its tradition of featuring inspirational memoirs, Starbucks has selected Isabel Gillies's Happens Every Day: An All-Too-True Story, which Scribner is releasing on March 24. Gillies, who has a recurring minor role as Elliot Stabler's wife on the NBC show Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, chronicles the collapse of her marriage in the book. Starbucks's push will now see the title, which is also appearing in this month's Vogue, featured in more than 7,000 of its stores.

http://news.starbucks.com/news/happens+every+day.htm

Feb 24, 2009
Starbucks Selects "Happens Every Day" by Isabel Gillies - to be Published by Scribner - as Next Book in Starbucks Book Program

Starbucks announced today the next title in its book program: Happens Every Day: An All-Too-True Story, by Isabel Gillies, which will be published on March 24, 2009 by Scribner, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc. Gillies, known for her recurring role as Detective Stabler's wife on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, has written an extraordinarily candid and compulsively readable memoir about coming to terms with the collapse of her marriage. Featured as Vogue's "Up Front" in its February 2009 issue, the book will be offered at more than 7,000 Starbucks company-operated locations in the U.S. and bookstores across the U.S. beginning on March 24, 2009.

"Isabel has exceptionally bared her soul on the page," said Susan Moldow, Executive Vice President and Publisher of Scribner. "You cannot read Happens Every Day without feeling a sense of identification, even if you have never been in Isabel's exact situation."

Isabel Gillies had a wonderful life—a handsome, intelligent, loving husband; two glorious toddlers; a beautiful house; the time and place to express all her ebullience, affection, and optimism. Suddenly, that life was over. Her husband, Josiah, announced that he was leaving her and their two sons. Happens Every Day is Gillies' raw and urgent account of the events that transpired, and it uncannily reads like an intimate confession from a best friend.

"Happens Every Day is about the end of my first marriage," said Gillies. "But while I was writing, I found that I had learned something about coping with unexpected crisis, and about loving your life even when it's falling apart. No matter who you are, where you live, or what you do, everyone has to navigate something sad or challenging. It would be great if this book could help someone else in trouble, even a little bit. I loved writing Happens Every Day, and am so honored that it was chosen to be a Starbucks book."

"Isabel Gillies describes the unexpected demise of her marriage with astonishing candor," said Nan Graham, Vice President, Editor-in-Chief
of Scribner. "She's heartbroken, she's livid, she's fiercely protective of her children–and she manages to be oddly exhilarating. The message she delivers in her instantly engaging voice is that people are resilient. You can start over. That happens every day, too."

"This book provides a real life lesson that we can all relate to," said Chris Bruzzo, vice president of brand content, Starbucks. "In the most relatable of words, and with a contagious writing style that exudes her wit and sense of humor, Isabel teaches us that some of our worst tragedies are actually moments that can bring about positive change and personal growth."

For additional information about Happens Every Day, please visit
www.simonandschuster.com.

About the Author
Isabel Gillies, known for her recurring television role as Detective Stabler's wife in Law & Order: Special Victims Unit and for her cinematic debut in the cult film Metropolitan, graduated from New York University with a BFA in film. She lives in Manhattan with her second husband, her two sons, and her stepdaughter.

About Starbucks
Since 1971, Starbucks Coffee Company has been committed to ethically sourcing and roasting the highest quality arabica coffee in the
world. Today, with stores around the globe, the company is the premier roaster and retailer of specialty coffee in the world. Through our unwavering commitment to excellence and our guiding principles, we bring the unique Starbucks Experience to life for every customer through every cup. To share in the experience, please visit us in our stores or online at www.starbucks.com

About Scribner
Scribner is an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc., part of CBS Corporation. Simon & Schuster is a global leader in the field of general interest publishing, dedicated to providing the best in fiction and nonfiction for consumers of all ages, across all printed, electronic and multi-media formats. Its divisions include the Simon & Schuster Adult Publishing Group, Simon & Schuster Children's Publishing, Simon & Schuster Audio, Simon & Schuster Digital, and international companies in Australia, Canada, and the United Kingdom.

my note: (PS. Glamour magazine gave the book a must read for March)

http://authors.simonandschuster.com/Isabel-Gillies

includes an excerpt of Chapter one of her book and a video of her talking about it.

Hey thanks for the info. I might check out the book myself.

Book is out, I already got my copy but I am currently reading Richard Belzar's I am Not a Cop! book regularly so it'll have to wait a bit longer for me to read it full time. However I did browse and from what I can tell, she only mentioned SVU once and it was brief too. It was mostly focused on her first marriage.

Also, here's a link from the MSNBC site that has video from her appearance on the Today show
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29862833/

Again, no SVU chat although they did show clips from Wildlife and Swing when introducing her.

Anyway, here's a picture that Today showed of her and her two boys that I took from my cell phone. I don't have that wonderful gadget of doing screen caps so this is the best I can do

I saw her on the Today show today, her interview was quite interesting to me, even those he's her ex husband, she didn't bash him, she gave him the name Josiah, which I think is decent, most people when they have the chance talk trash about their ex. The pictures of her and the boys were too cute, not only that but she looked stunning druing the interview, I loved her shows, very saucy. Hopefully I can get the book, or do what Im doing now, and take some of the little money I get and save it. I do want to read it.

I missed the Today show, however I am grateful to you, my friend, for sharing the link. Isabel seems cheerful when she discussed about her book, and her family. It was decent of her to talk about her ex in a very good way. Isabel is such a pretty and a smart woman. I enjoy looking at her picture playing with her boys. They are so cute. The interview was a good one. When I get a chance, I’d go out and buy one of her books. It sounds a great book to read. Again, thanks for the link.

Awww. She seems like a sweet and loveable person to be around. Glad to hear that her and her ex are friends and doing the best they can to give their boys a happy and healthy life.

Thanks for sharing the clip. Isabel is awesome.

New York Times Best Seller List

It's #8

Wonderful! Congrats to her! I can't wait to read her book.

CONGRATS ISABEL!!!!!

Found this video (not sure if it's been posted already)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LCNET-Y0Yjs

I love her personality... it's much different from her character's. And I wanna get that book. Sounds like a reader.

Thanks for posting that, Kamara. Again, she seems like such a warm person. I think it'd be nice to meet her someday. What do you guys think?

Well if you live in (or close by) NY, here you go:
May 17, 2009
The Book Cove
1:00 p.m.
22 Charles Colman Blvd.
Pawling, NY
(845) 855-9590

June 18, 2009
Madison Square Park
6:30 p.m.
Madison Square Park (at 26th street, near the Admiral Farragut Monument)
New York, NY

http://www.isabelgillies.com/appearances.html

PS I want to hear details

I wish I lived in New York.

I wanna go on set and stalk SVU people.

Mmmm. Oh well...

http://www.viddler.com/explore/ObsessedTV/videos/95/

It's about 20 minutes long and sadly it didn't really go through for me; hopefully it'll work better for you! If so please fill me in

Here's a pretty good article that I'm not planning to put up the site

Idyllic marriage is torn asunder
Former 'Law & Order' actress details its painful collapse in Oberlin setting

By Scott Eyman
Cox Newspapers
Published on Sunday, May 10, 2009

Isabel Gillies walked away from her job as an actress on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit to move to Oberlin and be a faculty wife.

Her husband was a poetry professor, they had two sons, and she was crazy in love with her family and the idea of raising her kids in a stress-free environment.

Gillies and her husband bought a house, installed new appliances and a new heating system. She didn't miss New York, and loved her new home, for Oberlin has a vibe all its own. It's farmland, with plenty of the spectacular cloud formations of the Midwest, what the natives call ''God light,'' when the sun streams through, providing some spectacular lighting effects.

And then there are the people. ''Oberlin students are named Zack or Violet,'' Gillies writes. ''They know transgendered people and how to address them, never making a mistake. I am forever getting confused on that account. Sometimes it is very hard to tell what gender these kids are, and I supposed that is the point.''

Gillies and her husband fit right in. Once, a few generations ago, their respective families had some money, but now they're down to their last Maine vacation house. They know fine things, but don't have a lot of them.

A month after establishing an idyllic existence, Gillies' husband dumps his family for a new member of the faculty, a professor of 18th-century English literature. The Other Woman — Gillies calls her Sylvia and her husband Josiah, even though those aren't their names, and a few minutes on Google will turn up the real ones — has looks somewhere between Audrey Hepburn and Winona Ryder, and a vaguely French accent. She's diametrically opposite Gillies, who is blond and Nordic.

''Happens every day,'' is what the other woman tells Gillies when the soon-to-be ex-wife asks how this could be happening to her. True, but it doesn't happen every day to Isabel Gillies, and Happens Every Day is her story of her marriage and unwanted divorce.

Gillies' book got me thinking about a batch of divorces I've been in proximity to the last several years. (Have you noticed that divorces, like death, often come in bunches?) They all began with affairs that nobody would admit existed; none of the betrayed spouses ever saw it coming; all went through emotional ravages, including a period of bouncing-off-the-walls craziness, accompanied by the well-known divorce weight-loss program.

Oh, one other thing: The adulterous spouse always tries to justify his or her behavior, which only proves that very few people will cop to being the incompetent architects of their own life.

In the end, everybody survives, but at a cost I can only imagine, and there tends to be a certain residual bitterness at the bottom of the cup.

Gillies' experience was very similar. She develops an interest in reality TV and a heretofore unexpected sympathy for Jennifer Aniston. And she cunningly compares her ravaged life with two small children to the life of people in the movies who are having the same experience.

''In the movies, when husbands or wives suddenly announce that they are leaving the marriage, life seems to stop suddenly to make room . . . The jilted woman or man has endless time to wallow in bed for days crying or drinking. That actress never gets out of her nightgown, except to take long meaningful walks through Central Park. I needed to be in that movie.''

So what makes Happens Every Day worth reading?

Gillies is an actress by profession, and actors are trained to be specific, so she's got a great eye. She's also a good writer:

''I went upstairs to where the boys were sleeping in their rooms and sat in the hallway equidistant between them. I took in a long steady deep breath and when I couldn't take in any more, I held it. I think I held my breath for the next two months.''

Gillies book is not a diatribe, and only occasionally a cri de couer. Mainly, it's a surgical reconstruction of her marriage's sudden collapse, and it's utterly honest and painful. Despite the fact that her predominant state throughout the book is pain, Gillies is pretty good company, mainly because she's got a good sense of humor, although not about Sylvia.

It's a tart book, a universal book, which is to say completely human, and eminently worth reading for both men and women.

OK I finally saw it (I'm at my Aunt's house using my cousin's computer) and I thought it was a good interview! She did talk about Law and Order, saying that she came in one time during her divorce proceedings, nailed her performance and she thinks SVU decided not to divorce the Stablers after what she went through. Then near the end she spoke more about SVU, she mentioned both Chris and Mariska, filming Paternity with blood all over her after a car accident, giving birth on national TV. Isabel also mention a bit about her new book she's writing about the transition she has made since her divorce and falling in love again.

Well today is my cousin's birthday and we are preparing to go out for dinner so I'm going on my way.

Isabel has some more appearances coming up for her book so if you are in the area, have fun (and spill details to me later!)
http://www.isabelgillies.com/appearances.html

August 8, 2009
Authors Night
5:30 p.m. ($75 admission)
The East Hampton Library
159 Main Street
East Hampton, NY
(631) 324-0222

October 15, 2009
New York Society Library
6:30 p.m.
53 East 79th St.
New York, NY
(212) 288-6900

November 17, 2009
National Press Club Book Fair & Authors' Night
5:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
The National Press Club
14 & F Streets, NW
Washington, DC
(202) 662-7516

From backstage at the Joy Behar Show offering divorce advice. I didn't know about this until today, I think it was aired a few days ago.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=We4H62lNwxw

Thank you for this. My sister is going through a divorce so I'll check the book out and see if it will help her.

The book was good.