QUOTE (PhilDiffy @ Sep 13 2008, 02:12 AM)

Well, JackV, if you notice, since he's been really into Juliet, who's he gone on a date with? Who's he actively tried to get into bed? not the curator, his date got interrupted by his mother showing up.
Well, Jules' date got interrupted too, so they're even then. Jules doesn't try to pick people up nearly as much as he does. I don't understand the "actively" description. Either you see other people or you don't. Certainly Shawn isn't saving himself just for Jules; if I had a boyfriend who acted like Shawn does, I would hardly be "ok" with it because he isn't
actively trying to bed people, just... what... recreationally? And again, he hasn't asked her to be his girlfriend, she hasn't given any real indication that she wants to date him, so I don't see the problem.
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The brunette, why not? It seemed more like a retaliatory response to Jules. You haven't seen him do that in ages.
Well, again, is Jules supposed to be a mind-reader? She sees him flirt with the brunette, she saw him kiss that girl at the dance, how is she supposed to know that he's thinking "Shawn <3s Jules"? In fact, seeing how he flirts with people not-actively, and kisses them and then never sees them again would just make her think that when he flirts with her he also doesn't "really mean it." If someone who has a history of hitting on everything with a skirt and then skipping out when they agree for a date kept hitting on you, would you really think he was serious? More than that, would you turn down dates from anyone else you might be interested in just so as not to hurt his feelings and be considered a "skank"? Jules might secretly like Shawn, but aside from a few playful interactions, she hasn't given him much encouragement, and it's clear she doesn't think it's a good idea for them to get involved even if she realizes he has a bit of a thing for her.
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And to your list of all the people you've flirted with, that's fine. But if you flirt with all those people, hard to tell if you're actually really interested in one.
Exactly! :-) And what does Shawn do?
But you misunderstood, I did not flirt with all those people (only the last one). The others flirt with me, and I smile back, because I'm being polite and because a smile does not mean I intend to date them. What I'm saying is, to me, the boy at the grocery store is the same as Shawn may be to Juliet. He flirts with me whenever I come in, I think he's sweet so I'm nice to him, but that hardly obligates me to not date anyone else because it would upset him if I got a boyfriend. But even the boy I DID flirt with--I owe him nothing until such a point that we move beyond flirting to something real.
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Casual datings a bit cheap. Especially for someone like Juliet, who's so strict on her "not dating a colleague", etc, rules.
I don't do casual dating myself, but I don't see why Juliet wouldn't. Not dating a coworker is something else entirely; that's just basic smarts about not dragging personal stuff into the workplace. People can date around and have one-night stands every weekend and still refuse to date a colleague.