This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Full Version: I need my "Monk Family"...
Been there/done that.
I survived bullies/being picked on/being bottom dog/top dog/bottom dog/top dog/bottom dog/top dog from 1st to 12th grade in the simpliest of ways. I ignored it. I didn't take the bait, so to speak. To be honest, I didn't care.
Once the dips realized I wasn't playing their game, they left me alone.
My advise: Don't sweat the little thing.
I survived bullies/being picked on/being bottom dog/top dog/bottom dog/top dog/bottom dog/top dog from 1st to 12th grade in the simpliest of ways. I ignored it. I didn't take the bait, so to speak. To be honest, I didn't care.
Once the dips realized I wasn't playing their game, they left me alone.
My advise: Don't sweat the little thing.
Don't sweat it.
Seriously even if you don't have your friends in any of your classes you will see them at lunch maybe. But also remember you will make new friends too.
As a mother of a recent graduate and a current senior I can only tell you what they did and that is they joined every extracurricular activity. Drama class, chess club and so many others that I didn't remember all the names. I just know they made tons of friends and they love school so much that my oldest wants to be a HS teacher.
Congrats and good luck,
Sue~
Seriously even if you don't have your friends in any of your classes you will see them at lunch maybe. But also remember you will make new friends too.
As a mother of a recent graduate and a current senior I can only tell you what they did and that is they joined every extracurricular activity. Drama class, chess club and so many others that I didn't remember all the names. I just know they made tons of friends and they love school so much that my oldest wants to be a HS teacher.
Congrats and good luck,
Sue~
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 15 2008, 07:40 PM) 
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
The first thing you should ask is (when there is a social moment or two during crew of in front of your locker), "Did you see the latest episode of Monk? Does anyone know how to download it into a cell phone?"
Hey monkchik! Speaking as someone who's only a couple years out of high school, I can tell you those rumours about the high school years being some of the most exciting times of your life, are- for the most part- true. Seriously, you have nothing to worry about.
I advise you to join a few clubs at your school, or try out for a sport that you are interested in, and you'll be guaranteed to make new friends and have alot of fun. One of the most important things to remember is that while it's great to stay in touch with your old friends, it's also a good thing to be open to meeting new people and learning new things.
The homework load in high school is probably going to be a bit heavier than what you are use to, but so long as you can learn to balance your time between socializing and studying you will be okay...don't lose focus on maintaining a good GPA because you will regret it later on if you can't get into the college you want because you slacked off.
Speaking as someone who's only a couple years out of high school, I can tell you those rumours about the high school years being some of the most exciting times of your life, are- for the most part- true. Seriously, you have nothing to worry about. I advise you to join a few clubs at your school, or try out for a sport that you are interested in, and you'll be guaranteed to make new friends and have alot of fun. One of the most important things to remember is that while it's great to stay in touch with your old friends, it's also a good thing to be open to meeting new people and learning new things.
The homework load in high school is probably going to be a bit heavier than what you are use to, but so long as you can learn to balance your time between socializing and studying you will be okay...don't lose focus on maintaining a good GPA because you will regret it later on if you can't get into the college you want because you slacked off.
Chick.... you're a gereat chick! You shouldn't worry!
<<<<<<good vibes>>>>>>>>
I bet you'll do great!!
Mi
<<<<<<good vibes>>>>>>>>
I bet you'll do great!!
Mi
Don't worry about it! I was scared before I started high school too, but it really is a good time. I experienced very little bullying, even as a freshman. Do as others said and join as many activities as you are interested in, and really focus on applying yourself.
Ashley
Ashley
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 15 2008, 07:40 PM)
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Hang tough there kid.
High school can be tough.
Just hang in there and don't let the turkeys get you down.
High school is just like any social situation.
Pick your buddies and stay away from the losers and the people that give you grief.
And don't let the boys get fresh.
Watch your back and respect yourself.
You are the MonkChik so put your head up high and don't take any BS from anyone.
Uncle Tim with some advice.
Go get'em.
Chik, granddaughter,
I remember high school even if it was half a century ago. I was scared too. None of my friends were in any of my classes but we all had lunch together. The big kids, the juniors and seniors left us little ones alone, they had too many other things going on to be bothered with a bunch of pipsqueaks. My school was big, it took me a week to find the lunch room and some of my classes were on the first floor but my locker was on the third. Just take each day as it comes and by the end of the first 4 weeks you'll be an old pro. All your friends are going to feel the same way you do, new experiences are always hard at first. You're a fun kid, just be yourself and you'll find new friends to introduce to your old ones and they'll have new friends to introduce to you and soon you'll all be a group of new friends mixed in with the old.
I'm sending you a big (((HUG))), take it with you and after your first day tell us how it went. I'm sure you can do it. Buy a big bottle of Tums, it always helps me.
I remember high school even if it was half a century ago. I was scared too. None of my friends were in any of my classes but we all had lunch together. The big kids, the juniors and seniors left us little ones alone, they had too many other things going on to be bothered with a bunch of pipsqueaks. My school was big, it took me a week to find the lunch room and some of my classes were on the first floor but my locker was on the third. Just take each day as it comes and by the end of the first 4 weeks you'll be an old pro. All your friends are going to feel the same way you do, new experiences are always hard at first. You're a fun kid, just be yourself and you'll find new friends to introduce to your old ones and they'll have new friends to introduce to you and soon you'll all be a group of new friends mixed in with the old.
I'm sending you a big (((HUG))), take it with you and after your first day tell us how it went. I'm sure you can do it. Buy a big bottle of Tums, it always helps me.
Chik, take a deep breath...let it out slow. It is enough to make one nervous but it will also be an exciting time. Just focus on what's important to you and it will all work out.
You are going to be fine. If you need to talk, well, you know your Monk family is here for you.
You are going to be fine. If you need to talk, well, you know your Monk family is here for you.
few things..
A. never forget one thing..it's just school There is always a teacher you can get to help
B. I was in the same boat you were in..excpet I probaly was ten times more nerdier and afrad I was going to get beat up becuase I didn't see any of my friends in my classes. I met alot of new friends and still got to hang out with older one so don't worry.
C. This might not make alot of sense now but, when they say don't let peer pressure get to you it's not worth it trust me it's not. Most of the people you hang out with know you probaly won't hang out with after you graduate. Dont' worry too much about trying to act cool or impressed them.
A. never forget one thing..it's just school There is always a teacher you can get to help
B. I was in the same boat you were in..excpet I probaly was ten times more nerdier and afrad I was going to get beat up becuase I didn't see any of my friends in my classes. I met alot of new friends and still got to hang out with older one so don't worry.
C. This might not make alot of sense now but, when they say don't let peer pressure get to you it's not worth it trust me it's not. Most of the people you hang out with know you probaly won't hang out with after you graduate. Dont' worry too much about trying to act cool or impressed them.
I remember the feeling of starting to high school. High school is fun. Don't sweat it. You will have no problem in high school! Remember, HAVE FUN!
Thank you, thank you, all of you. For the good vibes and good advice. I feel a lot more relaxed now. I'll be sure to tell you all how it went.
Gosh, you guys are even more helpful than my REAL family!
<Big hugs to all of you.>
You guys are great!
Love you, family!
-chik/Jenny
I'll be sure to tell you all how it went. Gosh, you guys are even more helpful than my REAL family!
<Big hugs to all of you.>
You guys are great!
Love you, family!
-chik/Jenny
It's been over 20 years since I've been in high school (Class of 1986 and proud of it!), but I'm pretty sure some things are still the same... although it's also probably VERY different as well.
I'm sure you'll have no problems making new friends and it is very scary to go to a school that's so huge after being in junior high or middle school, which is a lot smaller. I think you'll have a great time. Just try to get involved in as many things as you can (clubs are great, because you can choose the things you really like and are interested in. They may even have a "Monk" club.... now that's a school I'd like to go to!). But seriously as long as you don't overdo it, you should be able to meet a lot of people that way.
Good luck and if you have any general questions about coping in high school I'm sure someone here (including myself) can find the answer for you! Just think... only four more years left of school and you'll be in college! How cool is that?!
Andrea
I'm sure you'll have no problems making new friends and it is very scary to go to a school that's so huge after being in junior high or middle school, which is a lot smaller. I think you'll have a great time. Just try to get involved in as many things as you can (clubs are great, because you can choose the things you really like and are interested in. They may even have a "Monk" club.... now that's a school I'd like to go to!). But seriously as long as you don't overdo it, you should be able to meet a lot of people that way.
Good luck and if you have any general questions about coping in high school I'm sure someone here (including myself) can find the answer for you! Just think... only four more years left of school and you'll be in college! How cool is that?!
Andrea
MC - High School is a good time. Dont let stagefright stop you from going on to do a great show/school year. Most of what you're worrying about now wont even be the case when you're there. Just know that all you Monk Family are here pulling for you and ready to hear about the days that didnt go so well. Most other students should be so lucky.
You'll do great girl, trust me. And i dont lie easily of often, so you know it's got to be true.
-Damien/Mandeville/The Author/Lucas Logan/Gestalt of the Ghostwind/Remedy=Chill, etc.
You'll do great girl, trust me. And i dont lie easily of often, so you know it's got to be true.
-Damien/Mandeville/The Author/Lucas Logan/Gestalt of the Ghostwind/Remedy=Chill, etc.
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 15 2008, 07:40 PM)
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Hey Chik, just be yourself, if people start on you, don't let it get you down, if they see you are nervous then you'll be a target, you can't help nerves but if they do have a go because of this just let them know just because your nervous it does not mean you are an easy target.
Also just be yourself, never change who you are to fit other peoples opinions of what you should look, sound and be like.
Never get into the wrong crowd e.g smoking, drinking.
Stick with your friends but also try making new ones, just because your other ones may not be in your new classes doesn't mean you can't have friends in those classes.
Never let people intimidate you.
You will be fine i'm sure of it, to me you sound like a tough cookie.
Anyway you seem cool enough to just go with the flow.
Good luck and i'm sure you'll do great.
****BIG HUGS****
....Pinkie....
I think, you will do well! Just trust yourself. You are a great girl!
Best wishes
Mari
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QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 15 2008, 08:40 PM)
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
I'm a little late to chime in here, but I hope that it went okay for you.
In our high school, they call the freshmen crabs. I have never, ever found anyone that could tell me why, either. Freshmeat makes more sense.
Gonnma be a junior this year
A: Never Listen to the juniors and seniors
B:Study study study
C:Have fun
D: if you do a activity Join a group
as Bruce springsteen said in one of his songs "Glory days, they'll pass ya by, glory days, in the wink of a young girl's eye glory days glory days" Theese truely are the glory days. enjoy em.
A: Never Listen to the juniors and seniors
B:Study study study
C:Have fun
D: if you do a activity Join a group
as Bruce springsteen said in one of his songs "Glory days, they'll pass ya by, glory days, in the wink of a young girl's eye glory days glory days" Theese truely are the glory days. enjoy em.
Hey Chik, I hope you dont mind if I hijack the thread for a moment. I just got some bad news...
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
I was there once. I thought it was going to end up being really bad and everything turned out okay. Nobody picked on me for being a freshman. It will be fine.
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 16 2008, 09:40 AM)
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Hi Jenny.
I was born in a northern state and had to move to a state in the south to go to high school after a family tragedy forced us to relocate and so I was the butt of yankee jokes, especially my first year but I somehow lived through it and saw my own way often alone but in time together with some with whom friendship arose.
Life at a new high school can indeed be a lonely, frightening experience but if you be who you have been till now making your own decisions then in time others may learn to accept your youness from which true not perceived friendship can arise even among total strangers at first.
GOOD LUCK
Thanks again, you guys. I feel sooo much better now! Not even nervous at all! You guys rock!!
Aaw!
Yeah, I recall you talking about Bob. And, maybe there is something wrong with the house, I'm no expert on asbestos, so I can't say anything about that. But, it may just be pure coincidence. When I was five my mum had a miscarriage. They later found out my mum just wasn't healthy enough to bear children, and I was the one and only baby my parents would ever have. Maybe it's just the same with your neighbor.
I'm sending positive vibes your way, M!
<<<<<Positive vibes>>>>
-chik
QUOTE
Hey Chik, I hope you dont mind if I hijack the thread for a moment. I just got some bad news...
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Aaw!
Yeah, I recall you talking about Bob. And, maybe there is something wrong with the house, I'm no expert on asbestos, so I can't say anything about that. But, it may just be pure coincidence. When I was five my mum had a miscarriage. They later found out my mum just wasn't healthy enough to bear children, and I was the one and only baby my parents would ever have. Maybe it's just the same with your neighbor. I'm sending positive vibes your way, M!
<<<<<Positive vibes>>>>
-chik
QUOTE (TheAuthor @ Aug 16 2008, 07:00 PM)
Hey Chik, I hope you dont mind if I hijack the thread for a moment. I just got some bad news...
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Sorry to hear, that there has been again something sad happened. I think, it is okay, if I answer this, because Monkchik answered you and this is her thread. She gave a īpermissionī, okay?
I have three children and I donīt know, what to do if something happens them. To lose a baby is always a tough thing, even if the baby hasnīt born yet. But it is already a child. I donīt know, how far the pregnancy had been, but the miscarriages happen and sometimes a mother canīt do anything to prevent it. It doesnīt mean that they could not get more children later. Nobody can predict these things.
I donīt if it is asbetos, because they havenīt yet lived in this house a long time. I suppose, asbestos maybe needs more time to do harm, but I am not an expert on this, either.
I hope you feel better.
< big hugs >
Mari
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QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 15 2008, 07:40 PM)
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Good vibes coming at ya. High School isn't bad....really...you'll be fine. As far as being "pushed around by the older kids"....join a team....drama or something. THEN you automatically have folks who have "your back"
B
QUOTE (TheAuthor @ Aug 16 2008, 07:00 PM)
Hey Chik, I hope you dont mind if I hijack the thread for a moment. I just got some bad news...
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Most of the regulars migh recall me talking about and then losing Bob my next door neighbor.
And how he sold his house and we got new neighbors - A tall black man with a tiny asian woman. I havent really met here, but he seems like a good, friendly guy.
Well, they have a daughter and when they moved in to Bob's old house the wife was pregnant.
And we just found out tonight that she lost the baby last week. And no one can tell them why. It's a total medical mystery.
<shakes head>
I'm totally swimmy right now. My grandmother found out what happened then pushed me out the door to go find out the details. I know I'm thinking crazy things - like that death seems to hang out in certain areas, or maybe there's something wrong with the house - asbestos or the next worse thing, you know?
I gave him our condolences and offered to help if we ever could and I told him "I cant even imagine that someone would know what to say." And he said "Yeah, there's nothing anybody can say. But there are good days and bad ones."
I'm just floored, you know?
-Mandeville.
Mandeville!
I'm sure if they bought the house the finance company insisted they have it inspected by a qualified inspector and if any asbestos was found it would have to be remedied before anyone could purchase the house. State law for sure.
Miscarriages happen for many reasons, the most usual is the egg didn't plant correctly on the uterine wall or there was something genetically wrong with the baby. It's not you or the house, they just happen. Don't let this 'death thing' get to you. I know how you feel though, they seem to come in bunches. I've been there more times than I can count. It's never easy but you will move on if you let yourself and don't dwell on it.
QUOTE (kees_lady @ Aug 18 2008, 09:37 AM)
Mandeville!
I'm sure if they bought the house the finance company insisted they have it inspected by a qualified inspector and if any asbestos was found it would have to be remedied before anyone could purchase the house. State law for sure.
Miscarriages happen for many reasons, the most usual is the egg didn't plant correctly on the uterine wall or there was something genetically wrong with the baby. It's not you or the house, they just happen. Don't let this 'death thing' get to you. I know how you feel though, they seem to come in bunches. I've been there more times than I can count. It's never easy but you will move on if you let yourself and don't dwell on it.
I'm sure if they bought the house the finance company insisted they have it inspected by a qualified inspector and if any asbestos was found it would have to be remedied before anyone could purchase the house. State law for sure.
Miscarriages happen for many reasons, the most usual is the egg didn't plant correctly on the uterine wall or there was something genetically wrong with the baby. It's not you or the house, they just happen. Don't let this 'death thing' get to you. I know how you feel though, they seem to come in bunches. I've been there more times than I can count. It's never easy but you will move on if you let yourself and don't dwell on it.
Yes, actually spontaneous abortions can make up to 50% of all pregnancies in their earliest stages, most of the women don't even know they were pregnant.. and mostly it's because of severe genetic disorders. But I realize this woman was pregnant for quite a longer time and the loss is very big, and sad.. Of course, there might be many reasons for her miscarriage as well and I guess some of these reasons aren't even known in medicine yet.
Monkchik,
High school isn't the be-all and end-all of your existence, unlike what the teen movies seem to imply. Don't worry, and just enjoy it because a few years goes by way too quickly! (over here, it's from year 7-12, and that might be another cup of tea)
High school isn't the be-all and end-all of your existence, unlike what the teen movies seem to imply. Don't worry, and just enjoy it because a few years goes by way too quickly! (over here, it's from year 7-12, and that might be another cup of tea)
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 15 2008, 07:40 PM)
This Wednesday, I'm going to go to highschool. I'll be a Freshman. Or as the seniors probably would refer to me as "Freshmeat."
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Jenny
Freshman blues is one of the most common ailments known to mankind! But usually girls (as in Jenny) don't take the abuse or suffer the degredation of boys. Simply because men r more prone to exert their dominance in a physical manner. Of course girls have their bullies too both physical and psychological. Regardless I'm sure u have some attributes that would help you. Some people have intelligence, some r more attractive, some have physical or athletic skills. So join some club or team that will showcase your strengths. Chess club, cheerleaders, track and field, sports, band, debate team etc. whatever organization that will get you in the mainstream school activities.
If you show promise teachers, coaches, older classmates/teamates will help you integrate and groom your social skills. If someone, who say, is a leader in one field recognizes your talent it will make your integration easier.
But above and beyond this I hope this will be a good lesson in how life has a way of making you TOP dog one day when you have the oppurtunity to treat people either with deferance, cruelty, kindness or compassion and then be on the bottom of the pile hoping/praying you'll be treated with dignity and respect. In a few short weeks you'll be immerssed in shcool but in four short years you'll be top dog again. I hope you give what you ask for now.
Good Luck
TwoWolves
All my classes are scattered about in this ginormous school. So far that I know of, none of my friend are in any of my classes. I'm just a nervous wreck. I don't want to be pushed around by the older kids. Just last year, me and the kids in my grade were the top dogs in the school, the oldest grade, no one wanted to mess around with us. But, now I'm going to feel tiny and defenseless next to these big kids.
My mum keeps telling me that I'll get used to it, and I'm not the only one whose nervous, but I'm still nervous and stressed out! I'm getting indigestion and my acne is acting up dramatically!
So, all I'm asking for is just some positive vibes from the people who have been there before.
Please and thank you.
-chik/Jenny/Freshmeat
Jenny
Freshman blues is one of the most common ailments known to mankind! But usually girls (as in Jenny) don't take the abuse or suffer the degredation of boys. Simply because men r more prone to exert their dominance in a physical manner. Of course girls have their bullies too both physical and psychological. Regardless I'm sure u have some attributes that would help you. Some people have intelligence, some r more attractive, some have physical or athletic skills. So join some club or team that will showcase your strengths. Chess club, cheerleaders, track and field, sports, band, debate team etc. whatever organization that will get you in the mainstream school activities.
If you show promise teachers, coaches, older classmates/teamates will help you integrate and groom your social skills. If someone, who say, is a leader in one field recognizes your talent it will make your integration easier.
But above and beyond this I hope this will be a good lesson in how life has a way of making you TOP dog one day when you have the oppurtunity to treat people either with deferance, cruelty, kindness or compassion and then be on the bottom of the pile hoping/praying you'll be treated with dignity and respect. In a few short weeks you'll be immerssed in shcool but in four short years you'll be top dog again. I hope you give what you ask for now.
Good Luck
TwoWolves
I am sure you will be fine.
Just be yourself and try to relax
A smile adds a great deal to face value. Treat others the way you would want to be treated, even the ones that may give you a hard time.
I was very shy around people I didnt know and had the same thing happen to me in JR High and High School, no classes with any of my friends. I was scared to death and was not an outgoing person. I did make new friends and if I can do it anyone can. The ones that tried to cause trouble or give me a hard time I just ignored and pretended they were not there.
I tried to be nice to everyone, even the ones I did not want to be nice to.
People dont change much and the ones that were jerks in High School are the same way 30 years later and not as cool as they once thought they were.
It also helped me to think of my friends that I would see after school or a movie or other event that I would be looking forward to or just when the school day would be over I would be free to do what I wanted to do.
Hugs and best wishes are being sent your way !!
~~ Sally
Just be yourself and try to relax
A smile adds a great deal to face value. Treat others the way you would want to be treated, even the ones that may give you a hard time.
I was very shy around people I didnt know and had the same thing happen to me in JR High and High School, no classes with any of my friends. I was scared to death and was not an outgoing person. I did make new friends and if I can do it anyone can. The ones that tried to cause trouble or give me a hard time I just ignored and pretended they were not there.
I tried to be nice to everyone, even the ones I did not want to be nice to.
People dont change much and the ones that were jerks in High School are the same way 30 years later and not as cool as they once thought they were.
It also helped me to think of my friends that I would see after school or a movie or other event that I would be looking forward to or just when the school day would be over I would be free to do what I wanted to do.
Hugs and best wishes are being sent your way !!
~~ Sally
Thank you all, that I haven't thanked yet. So, I start this wednesday, in two days, and I think I'm pretty sure I can do it now.
<big hugs>
-chik
So, I start this wednesday, in two days, and I think I'm pretty sure I can do it now.<big hugs>
-chik
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 18 2008, 02:02 PM)
Thank you all, that I haven't thanked yet. So, I start this wednesday, in two days, and I think I'm pretty sure I can do it now.
<big hugs>
-chik
So, I start this wednesday, in two days, and I think I'm pretty sure I can do it now.<big hugs>
-chik
You can do it !!! Keep that positive attitude !
Which reminds me .........
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it woth the effort .
QUOTE (4thecaptain @ Aug 18 2008, 04:23 PM)
You can do it !!! Keep that positive attitude !
Which reminds me .........
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it woth the effort .
Which reminds me .........
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it woth the effort .
LOL! Yep, I guess that'd work!
-chik
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 18 2008, 09:19 PM)
LOL! Yep, I guess that'd work!
-chik
-chik
Remember, we are here for you when you need us!!
I remember the feeling so well of being a freshman. It'll be an adjustment but you will be okay! I am sure you'll meet great new friends and run into your old friends. Just remember - everyone else in your grade will be going through the same thing so you won't be alone!
Let us know how it goes tomorrow!
Let us know how it goes tomorrow!
QUOTE (mjwannabe @ Aug 19 2008, 10:42 AM)
Let us know how it goes tomorrow!
Guys! It was great! My first period teacher is hilarious, and yeah, my friends aren't in many of my classes and there were a few classes I found really boring, but it's cool. I ALREADY made a new friend. And on the first day!! It was really cool. And I have a "locker buddy".
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 20 2008, 05:40 PM)
Guys! It was great! My first period teacher is hilarious, and yeah, my friends aren't in many of my classes and there were a few classes I found really boring, but it's cool. I ALREADY made a new friend. And on the first day!! It was really cool. And I have a "locker buddy".
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
I`m so glad everything went well today. So glad you made a new friend, hope she or he watches Monk! LOL
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 20 2008, 04:40 PM)
Guys! It was great! My first period teacher is hilarious, and yeah, my friends aren't in many of my classes and there were a few classes I found really boring, but it's cool. I ALREADY made a new friend. And on the first day!! It was really cool. And I have a "locker buddy".
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
I am so glad you had a Good first day! I am glad you made a new friend. Don't forget the tell him/her about Monk! I thought about you today while I was at school. Glad everything went so good for you!!
I've tried to post in this thread two times -- for some reason my computer doesn't like it. It's too bad really, since I'm sure I gave you some sage advice, but I have no idea what I said.
Glad you didn't need it!
Glad you didn't need it!
QUOTE (history08 @ Aug 21 2008, 06:32 AM)
I am so glad you had a Good first day! I am glad you made a new friend. Don't forget the tell him/her about Monk! I thought about you today while I was at school. Glad everything went so good for you!!
Hmm.. I thought it would be kind of exciting if you two met at the same school..
QUOTE (Chacal @ Aug 21 2008, 10:56 AM)
Hmm.. I thought it would be kind of exciting if you two met at the same school..
That would be exciting, wouldn't it!
QUOTE (history08 @ Aug 21 2008, 12:23 PM)
That would be exciting, wouldn't it!
That would be awesome!
And it's nice to know you were thinking of me while I was at school...and you were at school.
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 20 2008, 05:40 PM)
Guys! It was great! My first period teacher is hilarious, and yeah, my friends aren't in many of my classes and there were a few classes I found really boring, but it's cool. I ALREADY made a new friend. And on the first day!! It was really cool. And I have a "locker buddy".
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
Thanks for the good vibes!!
-chik
I knew you'd be okay! You set yourself up thinking about how awful it's going to be that you had nowhere to go but up!
My brother started his first day of his sophomore year today. I need to call him to see how it went.
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 21 2008, 03:54 PM)
That would be awesome! And it's nice to know you were thinking of me while I was at school...and you were at school.
And it's nice to know you were thinking of me while I was at school...and you were at school. You would be my favorite student!
QUOTE (history08 @ Aug 21 2008, 11:26 PM)
You would be my favorite student!
Sorry for the OT - but I notice that you are now an overachiever history08.
QUOTE (mjwannabe @ Aug 22 2008, 09:48 AM)
Sorry for the OT - but I notice that you are now an overachiever history08.
Yay for History08 -- You're almost there too, MJ!
QUOTE (mjwannabe @ Aug 22 2008, 08:48 AM)
Sorry for the OT - but I notice that you are now an overachiever history08.
Thanks, MJ and Bflogal!!
You are almost there, MJ!!
QUOTE (history08 @ Aug 21 2008, 11:26 PM)
You would be my favorite student!
Cool! And congratulations on your overacheivement!
QUOTE (monkchik693 @ Aug 22 2008, 04:13 PM)
Cool! And congratulations on your overacheivement!
Thanks!
I hold the record for the worst first day ever. First off...I signed up for one class i really wanted but did not get it, Second My school is undergoing construction and we have no cafeteria, so we have to eat in the gym and they have no fresh food. They drop a screen for lunch and still have Gym on the other side. Third I am in no classes with my friends, just people who hate me. fourth Most of my classes are in a trailer, out side with no way to get to them.....that will be fun in the winter, Cyber schooling is looking so apealing right now.
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