I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
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QUOTE (unsteady @ May 2 2008, 04:27 PM) 
I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
You could pm DonnaJo, KimberlyT, Ciaddict, Cifan70, Spooky, Judy or Jryan (what a list!). They are the nicest ladies I have met.
And Valley, I'm going to see Iron Man on Sunday with my sister and his little boy
QUOTE (Jryan @ May 2 2008, 05:18 PM)
Just got my new credit card in, well its not new, but it has a new picture, people at Capital one, let you put your own picture, I wanted VDO but hubby said no, So I put this one instead.
It looks soooo cute, Makes me want to charge, lol, Luckly I pay it out each month, lol.
It looks soooo cute, Makes me want to charge, lol, Luckly I pay it out each month, lol.
what a cute picture!
QUOTE (unsteady @ May 2 2008, 06:27 PM)
I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
How were you acting before? A diagnosis shouldn't change anything, Just help you get the correct help you need. My daughter has the same problem with looking and talking to people she doesn't know but with me she sometimes never shuts up, but then sometimes, she cries and can't tell me whats wrong, She had depression and social anxiety or so I am told, in our area there is a lack of pschiatrist, I already go 30 miles out of town to see the one I see now, I wish there were support groups of something else for her, we are getting ready to change insurances and she will be going on Medicare in a year, she is considered disabled due to this, it took a few years to get a diagnosis, and me doing research to find it, she is on Paxil, which off topic, Rogers once said 40mg would make a hound dog smile, well it doesn't make her smile, But, don't let a diagnosis get you down, since I have had children, I have always felt, doctors practice medicine, They practice, till they get it right, so he might not be totally right, he might be, but that diagnosis, isn't a death sentence, If you need to chat more, PM me, I am happy to listen.
Jryan.
QUOTE (rubyrosettared @ May 2 2008, 04:59 PM)
I'm so so sorry to hear about this lenore *hug*
We had a German Shepherd who we got before we had our kids and she was a beautiful dog, beautiful to look at and beautiful in nature and when she was 12 years old, she became very sick and we made the hardest decision to have her put to sleep. My husband and my dad in law (her two most favourite people in the world) were with her at the end but it absolutely broke my heart because she was my first 'baby'. It's been five years now and i still miss her dreadfully. We all do, we never got another dog to replace her.
You're in my thoughts
We had a German Shepherd who we got before we had our kids and she was a beautiful dog, beautiful to look at and beautiful in nature and when she was 12 years old, she became very sick and we made the hardest decision to have her put to sleep. My husband and my dad in law (her two most favourite people in the world) were with her at the end but it absolutely broke my heart because she was my first 'baby'. It's been five years now and i still miss her dreadfully. We all do, we never got another dog to replace her.
You're in my thoughts
I am so sorry and there I go and put a pic of my shaggy, I know what you went through, I had a siamese cat I had them longer than my kids, she was a stray, she was climb on my back and move her feet and give me back massages, she was my lap cat, she was 12 or 13, she would never go outside when she got older, we moved into a new neighborhood, and I don't know why but one night she must have followed my husband outside when he went empty the garbage, and he didnt notice, the next day was the first day of school, so I didn't notice Princess was missing, though all the rushing of getting the kids ready for school all of a sudden there was a knock on the door, The neighbor knew I had a cat, she asked "what color flea color does your cat have," I said " Pink why"
She said , don't come out, I will take her to the vet, well I had to go out, she was on the grass, trying to walk but couldnt, She had went to sleep in the car engine and when she started the car, it has ripped the skin off her belly and her hind legs ripping the tendons. I started screaming, the kids didn't know what had happen, it was like someone telling me my child had died, they put her in a pet carrier and took her to the nearest vet. To make a long story short, due to her age and extent of her injuries the doctor had to put her to sleep, I couldnt even go say goodbye, I cried on the phone and told him to tell her I love her. My husband when pick up the body cause I wanted to bury her, I had to look in the box, cause I could'nt believe it was her, but I didn't look at her injuries, I cried for two days. We had another cat, he sensed something wrong and started trying to take her place, he started doing the things Princess would do, It was about 10 yrs before we got shaggy, and now he is so jealous of Tiger, Tiger is back to being my daughters cat, and Shaggy is my baby, but I was so afraid to let myself open my heart to a pet again.
QUOTE (unsteady @ May 2 2008, 07:27 PM)
I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
I don't think so, you thought you were the way you were for a certain reason for a long time. You had developed your coping strategies around that diagnosis. Now something that you thought was certain for many years, turns out to be wrong. I'm sure it would be at least a little strange. Whoever I think you should focus on who you are besides your condition. I don't think a person should define themselves by their disability or condition, but by their loves, dreams, and well... life.
QUOTE (Jryan @ May 2 2008, 07:55 PM)
How were you acting before? A diagnosis shouldn't change anything, Just help you get the correct help you need. My daughter has the same problem with looking and talking to people she doesn't know but with me she sometimes never shuts up, but then sometimes, she cries and can't tell me whats wrong, She had depression and social anxiety or so I am told, in our area there is a lack of pschiatrist, I already go 30 miles out of town to see the one I see now, I wish there were support groups of something else for her, we are getting ready to change insurances and she will be going on Medicare in a year, she is considered disabled due to this, it took a few years to get a diagnosis, and me doing research to find it, she is on Paxil, which off topic, Rogers once said 40mg would make a hound dog smile, well it doesn't make her smile, But, don't let a diagnosis get you down, since I have had children, I have always felt, doctors practice medicine, They practice, till they get it right, so he might not be totally right, he might be, but that diagnosis, isn't a death sentence, If you need to chat more, PM me, I am happy to listen.
Jryan.
Jryan.
I took paxil once. For depression. Not really severe, I wasn't suicidal or anything dramarific like that. I just slept alot and wasn't motivated enough in my parents eyes. I couldn't sleep for the first two days I was on it, then after that I only got about 6 hours a night.
My dreams were so real and crazy, I woke up one morning surprised that I was still alive. Mass Zombie assault.
I always had to bounce my leg when I was sitting down. It was constant and uncontrolable and drove people crazy.
I couldn't write. I couldn't create. What I could manage to get on paper felt one dimensional, hollow, and flimsy.
I had zero sex drive. I had no desires what so ever. I didn't even care about chocolate. I still liked it, and still wanted it sometimes, but really didn't get any particular pleasure from eating it.
Aside from things like this that made an impression, all my memories from that time are indistinct and fuzzy.
I quit taking the stuff, and determined to get through it on my own. I figured if I didn't do it myself, I'd never really be better. If something mild like anti-depressants made me feel like that, I can't imagine what the "wet blanket" feeling of stronger drugs is like.
QUOTE (lenore @ May 2 2008, 05:12 PM)
Thank you, all of you. It does help to hear your kind words. He was a family member. I had it done this afternoon. My son said to go ahead. It would be too hard for him to see him the way he was. When I called and told him it was done, he cried. He is 34 yrs old and I haven't known him to cry since he was a child. Buddy just went sleep and then to doggie heaven. It helps to have friends to talk to. This was one of the hardest things to do.
.. it always makes me sad to hear about someone loses their animal.. i had a st. bernard when i was little and one day she got out while we were at church and got hit.. i cried forever .. im soo sorry to hear bout this ...
QUOTE (lenore @ May 2 2008, 09:02 AM)
I am very sad today. I am going have put my weimarana dog down. He was hit by a car a couple of months ago. It shattered one hip and we had hoped he would be able to go on as 3 legged dog but it is just not going to happen. He is just fading away and yesterday I realized he was losing his sight. This has been a very difficult decision for me. I just can't watch him suffer anymore though. My son wants to be able to come and say goodbye, so Buddy and I will be together one more day. Crying and crying.
This is a poem that I will never forget from my Vet's office. It is called Rainbow Bridge. I googled it for you in hopes that it might bring some comfort to you and your family.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so that they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends there are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to perfect health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again just as we remember them in our dreams of years and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing- they each miss someone very special to them, who had to stay behind when the beloved pet went away.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks up -- the bright eyes are intent, the body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group his body flying over the green grass, his legs hurrying faster and faster. You have been spotted, when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The sweet loving kisses rain upon your face, your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your dear pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together.
QUOTE (HelloBobby @ May 2 2008, 09:00 PM)
This is a poem that I will never forget from my Vet's office. It is called Rainbow Bridge. I googled it for you in hopes that it might bring some comfort to you and your family.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so that they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends there are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to perfect health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again just as we remember them in our dreams of years and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing- they each miss someone very special to them, who had to stay behind when the beloved pet went away.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks up -- the bright eyes are intent, the body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group his body flying over the green grass, his legs hurrying faster and faster. You have been spotted, when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The sweet loving kisses rain upon your face, your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your dear pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so that they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends there are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to perfect health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again just as we remember them in our dreams of years and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing- they each miss someone very special to them, who had to stay behind when the beloved pet went away.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks up -- the bright eyes are intent, the body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group his body flying over the green grass, his legs hurrying faster and faster. You have been spotted, when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The sweet loving kisses rain upon your face, your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your dear pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together.
That is so sweet. *sniffle*
QUOTE (HelloBobby @ May 2 2008, 09:00 PM)
This is a poem that I will never forget from my Vet's office. It is called Rainbow Bridge. I googled it for you in hopes that it might bring some comfort to you and your family.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so that they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends there are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to perfect health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again just as we remember them in our dreams of years and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing- they each miss someone very special to them, who had to stay behind when the beloved pet went away.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks up -- the bright eyes are intent, the body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group his body flying over the green grass, his legs hurrying faster and faster. You have been spotted, when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The sweet loving kisses rain upon your face, your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your dear pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so that they can run and play together. There is plenty of food and water and sunshine, and our friends there are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to perfect health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again just as we remember them in our dreams of years and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing- they each miss someone very special to them, who had to stay behind when the beloved pet went away.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks up -- the bright eyes are intent, the body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group his body flying over the green grass, his legs hurrying faster and faster. You have been spotted, when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The sweet loving kisses rain upon your face, your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your dear pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together.
that is so sweet
QUOTE (spookycc @ May 2 2008, 05:40 PM)
I know how you feel, lenore. I'm an animal-person, and it never gets any easier. The hardest thing I've had to do was assist the vet when she put down one of our horses at the stable I used to manage. It was so sad. We're here for you.
Cute pic, Jryan!
Cute pic, Jryan!
So many lovely messages this am. I want to reply to all individually but that would take up so much space. I can imagine how hard it would be with a horse. My brother has a lot of horses. He had to put one down recently. He does it himself. He knows where to shoot them and it's over instantly. He offered to take care of Buddy for me but when it came to it I just couldn't stand the idea of him being shot so I had the vet put him to sleep. I was afraid I would never get that gunshot out of my head. I don't know how Rickey does it. Some of these horses have served him well for years. When he put Prince down, Shelby, one of the other horses stood on the place where Prince went down for days. I love the story Hellobobby. It is a comfort to read it. I've lost animals before but for some reason this one was particularly difficult. !st time I had to make the decision. I'am having him cremated and will be bringing him home in a few days. I'll put him on the mantel next to favorite cousin that I lost not long ago. You are all such a comfort.
QUOTE (unsteady @ May 2 2008, 06:27 PM)
I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
I am so glad you felt comfortable enough here to talk of your problems. A big 1st step. I am sure I speak for everyone in saying we will always be happy to listen. Everyone goes through periods of low self esteem from time to time. As you age it seems to get better. Just keep telling yourself are a person of much worth. I don't think you are overreacting. Anytime we learn something new of ourselves we have to adjust.
QUOTE (JanxAngel @ May 2 2008, 07:21 PM)
I don't think so, you thought you were the way you were for a certain reason for a long time. You had developed your coping strategies around that diagnosis. Now something that you thought was certain for many years, turns out to be wrong. I'm sure it would be at least a little strange. Whoever I think you should focus on who you are besides your condition. I don't think a person should define themselves by their disability or condition, but by their loves, dreams, and well... life.
I took paxil once. For depression. Not really severe, I wasn't suicidal or anything dramarific like that. I just slept alot and wasn't motivated enough in my parents eyes. I couldn't sleep for the first two days I was on it, then after that I only got about 6 hours a night.
My dreams were so real and crazy, I woke up one morning surprised that I was still alive. Mass Zombie assault.
I always had to bounce my leg when I was sitting down. It was constant and uncontrolable and drove people crazy.
I couldn't write. I couldn't create. What I could manage to get on paper felt one dimensional, hollow, and flimsy.
I had zero sex drive. I had no desires what so ever. I didn't even care about chocolate. I still liked it, and still wanted it sometimes, but really didn't get any particular pleasure from eating it.
Aside from things like this that made an impression, all my memories from that time are indistinct and fuzzy.
I quit taking the stuff, and determined to get through it on my own. I figured if I didn't do it myself, I'd never really be better. If something mild like anti-depressants made me feel like that, I can't imagine what the "wet blanket" feeling of stronger drugs is like.
I took paxil once. For depression. Not really severe, I wasn't suicidal or anything dramarific like that. I just slept alot and wasn't motivated enough in my parents eyes. I couldn't sleep for the first two days I was on it, then after that I only got about 6 hours a night.
My dreams were so real and crazy, I woke up one morning surprised that I was still alive. Mass Zombie assault.
I always had to bounce my leg when I was sitting down. It was constant and uncontrolable and drove people crazy.
I couldn't write. I couldn't create. What I could manage to get on paper felt one dimensional, hollow, and flimsy.
I had zero sex drive. I had no desires what so ever. I didn't even care about chocolate. I still liked it, and still wanted it sometimes, but really didn't get any particular pleasure from eating it.
Aside from things like this that made an impression, all my memories from that time are indistinct and fuzzy.
I quit taking the stuff, and determined to get through it on my own. I figured if I didn't do it myself, I'd never really be better. If something mild like anti-depressants made me feel like that, I can't imagine what the "wet blanket" feeling of stronger drugs is like.
Well as I have shared my daughter was suicidal before, but not sure the paxil is right for her anymore, Effexor has been a wonder drug for me, thinking maybe I will suggest trying her on that, but like I said we change insurance on the 15th and will look at doctors maybe in New Orleans, wish they had some sort of customer reviews like qvc and hsn has, so you could find out who is worth the time and effort of seeing.
QUOTE (unsteady @ May 3 2008, 12:27 AM)
I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
I have a 14 year old son on the autistic spectrum. I don't know if i can help any but i can listen, so please, feel free to PM me anytime too
QUOTE (rubyrosettared @ May 3 2008, 12:19 PM)
I have a 14 year old son on the autistic spectrum. I don't know if i can help any but i can listen, so please, feel free to PM me anytime too
Thanks for that ruby. Thanks to you all.
I.Am. IRON MAN.
QUOTE (ValleyOfTheShado @ May 3 2008, 11:46 AM)
I.Am. IRON MAN.
FTW
QUOTE (LazarusMissile @ May 3 2008, 01:52 PM)
FTW
haha, you actually decided to sign in.
QUOTE (ValleyOfTheShado @ May 3 2008, 12:02 PM)
haha, you actually decided to sign in.
Yep Yep, i thought it was time i paid a visit
QUOTE (LazarusMissile @ May 3 2008, 02:03 PM)
Yep Yep, i thought it was time i paid a visit
That's good, since we made your thing in the middle of december, and you've only posted like...12 times.
For those of you who have been wondering--Vault is back and posting on the negotiations thread.
QUOTE (lenore @ May 2 2008, 10:02 AM)
Hey Jude is one of may favorites too. When I had my optical shop, it was playing on the radio system and an older lady came in and remarked that was the worst music she had ever heard. I just gave her a blank look. I did tone the music down a little after that. I had to make a living you know.
I am very sad today. I am going have put my weimarana dog down. He was hit by a car a couple of months ago. It shattered one hip and we had hoped he would be able to go on as 3 legged dog but it is just not going to happen. He is just fading away and yesterday I realized he was losing his sight. This has been a very difficult decision for me. I just can't watch him suffer anymore though. My son wants to be able to come and say goodbye, so Buddy and I will be together one more day. Crying and crying.
I am very sad today. I am going have put my weimarana dog down. He was hit by a car a couple of months ago. It shattered one hip and we had hoped he would be able to go on as 3 legged dog but it is just not going to happen. He is just fading away and yesterday I realized he was losing his sight. This has been a very difficult decision for me. I just can't watch him suffer anymore though. My son wants to be able to come and say goodbye, so Buddy and I will be together one more day. Crying and crying.
I'm so sorry lenore. Pets do become a part of your family. It's so hard to lose them. We had to have our 21 year old pom put to sleep a year and a half ago. Even though I knew that he'd had a very long and happy life and that we were lucky to have him for so long, didn't want him to suffer etc it was very hard.
QUOTE (unsteady @ May 2 2008, 07:27 PM)
I neeeeddd someone to talk to!
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
For a while now, my family and I have thought I had a very mild form of autism. There were signs: I avoid eye contact and other activities. I was always okay with it; I felt I had a sympathetic connection to the autism spectrum community at large, even though my case is fairly mild.
Well, today we got a new diagnosis. It turns out I'm not autistic! My behavior stems from OCD; my eye contact problem comes from low self-esteem. Now. . . it feels so wierd. My father said, "You wanted to be autistic?" Well, that would be a strange thing to admit to but . . . I feel like I've lost a part of my identity.
Or am I overreacting here?
Maybe you just need time to adjust to this unsteady after having thought a certain thing about yourself for so long. You're still the same person you have always been and if you have the correct diagnosis know you'll be able to find a treatment that will have the desired effect.
QUOTE (Jryan @ May 3 2008, 10:18 AM)
Well as I have shared my daughter was suicidal before, but not sure the paxil is right for her anymore, Effexor has been a wonder drug for me, thinking maybe I will suggest trying her on that, but like I said we change insurance on the 15th and will look at doctors maybe in New Orleans, wish they had some sort of customer reviews like qvc and hsn has, so you could find out who is worth the time and effort of seeing.
There are so many different drugs like effexor and paxil. I have tried both of them and I don't know how many others. As I've been told it is kind of a hit or miss thing because every one is different so what works for one does not work for another.That can be very frustrating and I guess scary too because who knows if it can adversely effect your thought process? After 15 years of trying different ones, trying taking nothing I found out that I was misdiagnosed when it came to depression. Now I have been on a medication that really seems to help. And boy is my husband thankful for that. There are no side effects that I've noticed (like low sex drive Janx-that bites lol) I feel better and although I'm not where I'd like to be I'm much better than I was.
Congrats on finding a place Janx. Hope all goes as planned. What a relief that must be!!!!!
QUOTE (lenore @ May 3 2008, 09:10 AM)
So many lovely messages this am. I want to reply to all individually but that would take up so much space. I can imagine how hard it would be with a horse. My brother has a lot of horses. He had to put one down recently. He does it himself. He knows where to shoot them and it's over instantly. He offered to take care of Buddy for me but when it came to it I just couldn't stand the idea of him being shot so I had the vet put him to sleep. I was afraid I would never get that gunshot out of my head. I don't know how Rickey does it. Some of these horses have served him well for years. When he put Prince down, Shelby, one of the other horses stood on the place where Prince went down for days. I love the story Hellobobby. It is a comfort to read it. I've lost animals before but for some reason this one was particularly difficult. !st time I had to make the decision. I'am having him cremated and will be bringing him home in a few days. I'll put him on the mantel next to favorite cousin that I lost not long ago. You are all such a comfort.
I'm glad we can be of some help, lenore, even if it's just to offer a sympathetic ear.
My old boss knew where to shoot horses to put them down, but we normally had children at camp, so that wasn't usually an option. I think it's painless if you do it correctly, but you're right - that shot would ring in your ears forever. Take care!
QUOTE (ValleyOfTheShado @ May 3 2008, 02:46 PM)
I.Am. IRON MAN.
dun nun nun nah dun nun nun nah dun dun dun...
Hey. Lauren told me she posted a notice about Angie's dad dying and that some of you had responded with thoughts and prayers. We would be remiss in not acknowledging your kindness. Thank you for all the prayers for my wife, mother-in-law and family during this time. The wounds are still raw and hurtful, but with the Lord's help we'll get through it. Thank you again.
Andy
Andy
Flyers Are Going To The Eastern Conference Finals!
QUOTE (ValleyOfTheShado @ May 3 2008, 02:46 PM)
I.Am. IRON MAN.
I love mecha. Power armor is one of those things that I just can't live without. Maybe I'll slip off to an early show today, since we're not having our usual Sunday guests.
QUOTE (hullbound @ May 3 2008, 04:09 PM)
I'm so sorry lenore. Pets do become a part of your family. It's so hard to lose them. We had to have our 21 year old pom put to sleep a year and a half ago. Even though I knew that he'd had a very long and happy life and that we were lucky to have him for so long, didn't want him to suffer etc it was very hard.
Maybe you just need time to adjust to this unsteady after having thought a certain thing about yourself for so long. You're still the same person you have always been and if you have the correct diagnosis know you'll be able to find a treatment that will have the desired effect.
There are so many different drugs like effexor and paxil. I have tried both of them and I don't know how many others. As I've been told it is kind of a hit or miss thing because every one is different so what works for one does not work for another.That can be very frustrating and I guess scary too because who knows if it can adversely effect your thought process? After 15 years of trying different ones, trying taking nothing I found out that I was misdiagnosed when it came to depression. Now I have been on a medication that really seems to help. And boy is my husband thankful for that. There are no side effects that I've noticed (like low sex drive Janx-that bites lol) I feel better and although I'm not where I'd like to be I'm much better than I was.
Congrats on finding a place Janx. Hope all goes as planned. What a relief that must be!!!!!
Maybe you just need time to adjust to this unsteady after having thought a certain thing about yourself for so long. You're still the same person you have always been and if you have the correct diagnosis know you'll be able to find a treatment that will have the desired effect.
There are so many different drugs like effexor and paxil. I have tried both of them and I don't know how many others. As I've been told it is kind of a hit or miss thing because every one is different so what works for one does not work for another.That can be very frustrating and I guess scary too because who knows if it can adversely effect your thought process? After 15 years of trying different ones, trying taking nothing I found out that I was misdiagnosed when it came to depression. Now I have been on a medication that really seems to help. And boy is my husband thankful for that. There are no side effects that I've noticed (like low sex drive Janx-that bites lol) I feel better and although I'm not where I'd like to be I'm much better than I was.
Congrats on finding a place Janx. Hope all goes as planned. What a relief that must be!!!!!
Well I was only on the Paxil for a short time many years ago. It totally turned me off to drug therapy too. I know it's very helpful to some people, but I don't think it's a good fit for me.
The place isn't 100% yet since I still have to meet with the condo association to make it final. It's like a homeowners association (which I despise BTW. People shouldn't be able to tell you what to do on your own land. HOAs: Contributing to the total homogenization of America!), but for a condo.
In more happy news, I'm down another pound this week, breaking the 10 in 2 months mark! I'm right on my goal of 5 pounds per month.
QUOTE (JanxAngel @ May 4 2008, 09:47 AM)
The place isn't 100% yet since I still have to meet with the condo association to make it final. It's like a homeowners association (which I despise BTW. People shouldn't be able to tell you what to do on your own land. HOAs: Contributing to the total homogenization of America!), but for a condo.
In more happy news, I'm down another pound this week, breaking the 10 in 2 months mark! I'm right on my goal of 5 pounds per month.
In more happy news, I'm down another pound this week, breaking the 10 in 2 months mark! I'm right on my goal of 5 pounds per month.
Congratulations on your weight loss and condo!
Congrats on the weight loss Janx and congrats to your Flyers cluck
QUOTE (andyc @ May 3 2008, 07:04 PM)
Hey. Lauren told me she posted a notice about Angie's dad dying and that some of you had responded with thoughts and prayers. We would be remiss in not acknowledging your kindness. Thank you for all the prayers for my wife, mother-in-law and family during this time. The wounds are still raw and hurtful, but with the Lord's help we'll get through it. Thank you again.
Andy
Andy
andy!!.. my God is that really YOU! you have to email me.. I've missed so much.. and I'll tell you what's happened with me.. tell me about your family.
*bug*
QUOTE (cluck73 @ May 3 2008, 10:26 PM)
Flyers Are Going To The Eastern Conference Finals!
Congratulations......but the mighty Detroit Red Wings will take the Cup!!!
QUOTE (oldgoalie52 @ May 4 2008, 11:12 AM)
Congratulations......but the mighty Detroit Red Wings will take the Cup!!!
Detroit still in it???
We quit watching after Nashville lost
QUOTE (hullbound @ May 4 2008, 11:59 AM)
Congrats on the weight loss Janx and congrats to your Flyers cluck
QUOTE (oldgoalie52 @ May 4 2008, 12:12 PM)
Congratulations......but the mighty Detroit Red Wings will take the Cup!!!
Thank you thank you!
It's a dismal day and I'm in a dismal mood.
i down to my last cig in what i HOPE to be my last pack of cigs ever ... im going to smoke it after supper tonight ... and then i hope to never smoke again ... ive got a headache even thinkin' bout it but it cost WAY too much and if very bad for me ... i just hope i make it !
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 03:11 PM)
i down to my last cig in what i HOPE to be my last pack of cigs ever ... im going to smoke it after supper tonight ... and then i hope to never smoke again ... ive got a headache even thinkin' bout it but it cost WAY too much and if very bad for me ... i just hope i make it !
Good Luck Tasha I know its hard, I quit 20 yrs ago, I have been encouraging my hubby to quit, he is 52, 20 lbs over weight, High blood pressure, diabetes, and I asked him to quit for New Years, well here we are in May, I watched Oprah one day, and the doctor who goes on the show even stated to with hold sex to get husbands to quit, I am worried he will stroke out one day and be an invalid like my uncle is now. He keeps promising but doesn't, he doesn't smoke around me, cause the smell gives me a migrain, when I talk about it he gets agravated and accuses me of nagging. I am at my witts end on what to do, I have even told him if he continues his distrutive behavior and does stoke out, I will not change his diapers, I will put him in a home, hoping tuff love will make him quit, but no luck. So sorry to dump on you, Just do it now while you are young, it gets so harder when your older and you have the medical problems that go with it, that's what also concerns me about VDO. I hope he is caring for the other parts of his health.
Good luck.
Jryan.
QUOTE (Jryan @ May 4 2008, 04:25 PM)
Good Luck Tasha I know its hard, I quit 20 yrs ago, I have been encouraging my hubby to quit, he is 52, 20 lbs over weight, High blood pressure, diabetes, and I asked him to quit for New Years, well here we are in May, I watched Oprah one day, and the doctor who goes on the show even stated to with hold sex to get husbands to quit, I am worried he will stroke out one day and be an invalid like my uncle is now. He keeps promising but doesn't, he doesn't smoke around me, cause the smell gives me a migrain, when I talk about it he gets agravated and accuses me of nagging. I am at my witts end on what to do, I have even told him if he continues his distrutive behavior and does stoke out, I will not change his diapers, I will put him in a home, hoping tuff love will make him quit, but no luck. So sorry to dump on you, Just do it now while you are young, it gets so harder when your older and you have the medical problems that go with it, that's what also concerns me about VDO. I hope he is caring for the other parts of his health.
Good luck.
Jryan.
Good luck.
Jryan.
Thanks!
sammy hates smoke .. he always says " your kisses taste like smoke " and stuff like that and it makes me feel bad .. i also cant scream as well as i used to ( which is important in my band) i get out of breath....ive also heard quiting with hepl with my acid reflux... im going to enjoy my last cig and then pray to god i dont turn into supper b*tch toward poor sambo !.....
QUOTE (hullbound @ May 4 2008, 02:08 PM)
It's a dismal day and I'm in a dismal mood.
Me too...and its sunny outside and I still feel blah...
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 04:11 PM)
i down to my last cig in what i HOPE to be my last pack of cigs ever ... im going to smoke it after supper tonight ... and then i hope to never smoke again ... ive got a headache even thinkin' bout it but it cost WAY too much and if very bad for me ... i just hope i make it !
Good luck Tasha...pm if you ever need support or anything!
QUOTE (KimberlyT @ May 4 2008, 04:35 PM)
Me too...and its sunny outside and I still feel blah...
Good luck Tasha...pm if you ever need support or anything!
Good luck Tasha...pm if you ever need support or anything!
THANKS! i know im going to need all the suport i can get .... ive been smoking since i was 12
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 04:39 PM)
THANKS! i know im going to need all the suport i can get .... ive been smoking since i was 12
Wow...thats a habit I never started and can say i am glad I never tried...t looks tough to quit.
If you need to yell and hollar, I have good listening ears
GAME 6!!
Sharks are down 3-2 in the series vs. Dallas Stars
GO SHARKS!!!
Sharks are down 3-2 in the series vs. Dallas Stars
GO SHARKS!!!
QUOTE (ValleyOfTheShado @ May 4 2008, 05:00 PM)
GAME 6!!
Sharks are down 3-2 in the series vs. Dallas Stars
GO SHARKS!!!
Sharks are down 3-2 in the series vs. Dallas Stars
GO SHARKS!!!
Here's how it will go.....trust me......
Dallas beats SJ tonight
Pittsburgh beats Philadelphia
Detroit beats Dallas
Detroit beats Pittsburgh
Detroit wins Stanley Cup
It's so simple!!!
QUOTE (andyc @ May 3 2008, 08:04 PM)
Hey. Lauren told me she posted a notice about Angie's dad dying and that some of you had responded with thoughts and prayers. We would be remiss in not acknowledging your kindness. Thank you for all the prayers for my wife, mother-in-law and family during this time. The wounds are still raw and hurtful, but with the Lord's help we'll get through it. Thank you again.
Andy
Andy
Hi andyc, I don't know you well, but remember you from my early days here. Our prayers are with you and your family, still.
QUOTE (hullbound @ May 4 2008, 02:08 PM)
It's a dismal day and I'm in a dismal mood.
I'm sorry, hullbound. It's sunny here but I hafta go in for a ten hour shift tonight and then straight to a 6-7 hour shift tomorrow. blech.
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 04:30 PM)
sammy hates smoke .. he always says " your kisses taste like smoke " and stuff like that and it makes me feel bad .. i also cant scream as well as i used to ( which is important in my band) i get out of breath....ive also heard quiting with hepl with my acid reflux... im going to enjoy my last cig and then pray to god i dont turn into supper b*tch toward poor sambo !.....
Good luck, tasha! We're here if you need folks to talk to!
QUOTE (KimberlyT @ May 4 2008, 04:35 PM)
Me too...and its sunny outside and I still feel blah...
I'm sorry, KimT. It's no fun feeling glum when spring is in the air and the sun is out.
QUOTE (oldgoalie52 @ May 4 2008, 04:16 PM)
Here's how it will go.....trust me......
Dallas beats SJ tonight
Pittsburgh beats Philadelphia
Detroit beats Dallas
Detroit beats Pittsburgh
Detroit wins Stanley Cup
It's so simple!!!
Dallas beats SJ tonight
Pittsburgh beats Philadelphia
Detroit beats Dallas
Detroit beats Pittsburgh
Detroit wins Stanley Cup
It's so simple!!!
I have faith in the Sharks to at least take this to game 7.
I'll be proud of them if they do.--because they were down 3-0.
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 03:11 PM)
i down to my last cig in what i HOPE to be my last pack of cigs ever ... im going to smoke it after supper tonight ... and then i hope to never smoke again ... ive got a headache even thinkin' bout it but it cost WAY too much and if very bad for me ... i just hope i make it !
I wish you the best of luck quitting the cigs. Keep plenty of veggie snacks around and be careful what you eat. I have quit many times and the wt gain was always a problem for me. You are young so maybe it won't be for you. Your acid reflux will go away and you will feel better all around. You can do it.
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 04:11 PM)
i down to my last cig in what i HOPE to be my last pack of cigs ever ... im going to smoke it after supper tonight ... and then i hope to never smoke again ... ive got a headache even thinkin' bout it but it cost WAY too much and if very bad for me ... i just hope i make it !
Good Luck Tasha! I know its hard. I quit about 7 years ago. Now I just smoke when I drink...but I need to quit it then too!
QUOTE (spookycc @ May 4 2008, 05:22 PM)
Hi andyc, I don't know you well, but remember you from my early days here. Our prayers are with you and your family, still.
I'm sorry, hullbound. It's sunny here but I hafta go in for a ten hour shift tonight and then straight to a 6-7 hour shift tomorrow. blech.
Good luck, tasha! We're here if you need folks to talk to!
I'm sorry, KimT. It's no fun feeling glum when spring is in the air and the sun is out.
I'm sorry, hullbound. It's sunny here but I hafta go in for a ten hour shift tonight and then straight to a 6-7 hour shift tomorrow. blech.
Good luck, tasha! We're here if you need folks to talk to!
I'm sorry, KimT. It's no fun feeling glum when spring is in the air and the sun is out.
QUOTE (lenore @ May 4 2008, 05:53 PM)
I wish you the best of luck quitting the cigs. Keep plenty of veggie snacks around and be careful what you eat. I have quit many times and the wt gain was always a problem for me. You are young so maybe it won't be for you. Your acid reflux will go away and you will feel better all around. You can do it.
QUOTE (cluck73 @ May 4 2008, 06:01 PM)
Good Luck Tasha! I know its hard. I quit about 7 years ago. Now I just smoke when I drink...but I need to quit it then too!
thanks for the support folks .. also i just noticed im an old hand now .. how could i not notice?
Good Luck Tasha! I helped my friend quit smoking and it was really hard on him. Just truck through it chicka, i know you can do it.
QUOTE (tashafallen @ May 4 2008, 06:17 PM)
thanks for the support folks .. also i just noticed im an old hand now .. how could i not notice?
Yeah I looked at mine too, pooh-bah...sounds like a member of some old men's smoking club or maybe a Moose lodge
I quit cold turkey. 2.5 packs to 0 in one day. That was 20 years ago. I still crave, but would never smoke again. Quit is quit, not temporary stop...
I chewed straws and swizzle sticks, but what really worked for me was having a white pencil the size of a smoke, and I would use it like a cig- flick it, hold it, draw off it, put it out, etc. I carried it for a long time. The oral fixation was satisfied as was the psychological component.
Was it silly looking? Sure, but watch smokers. Gray smoke coming out of a mouth is weird looking.
GOOD LUCK!!!! One day at a time and don't let it beat you.
I chewed straws and swizzle sticks, but what really worked for me was having a white pencil the size of a smoke, and I would use it like a cig- flick it, hold it, draw off it, put it out, etc. I carried it for a long time. The oral fixation was satisfied as was the psychological component.
Was it silly looking? Sure, but watch smokers. Gray smoke coming out of a mouth is weird looking.
GOOD LUCK!!!! One day at a time and don't let it beat you.
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