QUOTE (unsteady @ Feb 6 2009, 07:05 PM)

What if our Bobby is exactly the bastard he seems to be? What if he selfishly kept Eames in the dark and would have done with or without orders? Shouldn't she punish him for that?
Oh, it pains me to say this about our beloved detective, but . . .
Quite frankly, I don't believe that he has the ability to think beyond himself when it comes to his life/well being. He did not grow up with any model of a healthy relationship (personal or otherwise). Evidence of its effect on his life is the fact that as far as we know, he has never had a long term personal relationship, and until Eames, he did not have long term professional relationships either.
So, would he have kept her in the dark orders or no? I don't know . . . maybe. He obviously wasn't communicating with her during his suspension, so it is quite possible that he would not have told her that he was working undercover in Purgatory. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, he may have thought that he had already gotten her into enough trouble with the unauthorized undercover operation, and he didn't want to do any more damage to her career. However and just as likely, he was in a very dark place in his life, and he obviously chooses to do that alone. He's known no other way. Remember, he did not tell Eames of his mother's cancer (she learned about it when he used it as a rapport building tool with a perp), and he pushed her away when he was having to choose his mother over his job in The War At Home.
Now that I've beat him up, let me say that I am impressed with the quality of the man, given his backstory. He has made some good choices in his life. He did not go down the road of his dad or his brother. Instead, he utilizes his intelligence; chose a career to serve and help others; appears to sincerely care about justice, the victims, and sometimes even the perps (remember Tagman?); and has good values and high moral standards. And, I do think he values his relationship with Eames, both professionally and personally. I just think that sometimes, he doesn't know what he needs to do to nurture that. He's trying though, I'll give him that.
Should Eames punish him? As she pointed out in her tirade, his wounds are self inflicted. To some degree I would have to agree with that, and isn't that punishment enough when it comes to their relationship? Right now, he is a mess. But, as I said in an earlier post, Eames has chosen to maintain the relationship, warts and all. That doesn't mean she can't get angry with him and give him a piece of her mind now and again. It was probably a good wake up call.